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You Can’t Make Him See Your Worth

 

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“We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves.” ― Malcolm X

 We all want to be adored and accepted by the person that you have an interest, or love towards. It makes you feel good inside to know that there is another soul out there that loves your existence just as much as you do. It feels good to be wanted by someone and therefore when we cross individuals who display the exact opposite of want, it causes confusion mentally and emotionally. Love is a very powerful feeling, and it is so important to love yourself first before you can look for it from others. To know love for yourself, is to be able to identify what love is.

How can I tell if a person is displaying love towards me, if I can’t identify what it looks like and feels like?

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When you love yourself, you develop a sense of self-worth, and it helps you to understand that you are valuable. Self-worth is about who you are, not about what you do. When you know who you are as a person then you know what it is that you are willing to accept and what you will not accept.

There are so many individuals who do not value themselves enough to leave some terrible situations. Many are trapped in bad relationships and marriages because they want their partner to show them that they are loved and worthy of their attention, time, and affection.

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However you can’t make someone see your own worth. It is up to you to know it and if that individual can’t see the beauty within you then leave them be. No matter what I do, I can’t make someone indulge in the amazing taste of ice cream if they don’t want to.

No matter how many people love ice cream and go out to purchase it. So in other words you may be the best thing ever but it takes a willing individual to say I see something amazing right before me and I want to take part in it and give love a try with you.

If a person misses out on you and your great qualities, then it’s their loss and not yours.

I think we get so caught up in trying to force love upon someone that we forget that real love just happens and flows naturally without force. If you have to force someone to love you, then it is not love. If you got to put on an entire tap dancing show to make a person see that you are valuable and worthy then honey you are going about things the wrong way.

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True enough there are some people in life who will make you feel unworthy. Maybe you have seen them give more time and attention to another individual more than they have towards you. This is speaking of the dating phase and therefore you may start to compare yourself to another person. You can’t base your worth off of another person.

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If you walk into a jewelry store you will discover that there are many jewels and diamonds and each hold their own value. The beauty of it is that they lay there in wait to be discovered by the person who is looking for that exact jewel. There is someone out there who is looking for you just the way you are. They will see the value of having you in their life and will not cease at nothing to make sure that you know that you are the best thing to ever happen to them.

You are worthy and valuable to the right one. Be patient and do not entangle yourself with anyone that you have to force to see the beauty within you.

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‘Just Feel’ -Poetry by Me (Tanisha D. Davis)

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“When did it become okay not to ‘feel’?
This society we live in…is so unreal.
See its okay to exchange moments as long as you never own it.
Its okay to take in the excitement love brings but to pour out that true joy of it is an uncommon thing.
To say I love you and I think of you every hour of the day could lead to you having your feelings laughed at on public display.
Every heart felt confession is now a screenshot claiming it to be proof of obsession.
Every act of pursuit is now filled with harmful words to pollute the mind and to separate you from reminiscing on the good times.
 
Man….When did it become okay not to ‘feel’.
Have we really fell down so deep in a hole of false expectations….to the point where seeing anything real is a distasteful infatuation.
Is it wrong to want some joy in the midst of life’s pain. Is it wrong to want some sunshine after a day of heavy rain. Something has to change…does everybody have to be the same. Are we living a life of cloned hearts caught up in a reckless game…the end turning into nothing but new levels of insane.
 
I want to say how I feel…I want to feel what I say….I don’t want to worry about man made rules…can’t let that get in my way.
I don’t mind expressing my most deepest thought..I can’t change what’s in my heart.
And though that path made lead to a multitude of heart breaks…..at least I can live free knowing that I did ‘feel’ and that this cloned world never made me fake.”
 
#JustFeel
By: Me – Starr T Davis
©®2017

Sanaa Lathan Refuses to Starve Herself for Anybody!

Sanaa Lathan Refuses To Starve Herself: “I’ve never been a skinny girl. I like to eat.”

 

Sanaa Lathan Refuses to Starve herself for Anybody!
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Sanaa Lathan refuses to allow people to cause her to feel pressured about her weight. In fact, she loves her body and laughs off reports in the past that have speculated that she was pregnant.

 

“That was just a meal. I’m not a skinny girl. Never have been a skinny girl. And I like to eat and I’m not going to starve myself.”

“I’m going to live my life and you know sometimes I get a bad angle and the blogs are the blogs and people like a story for a minute. I don’t starve myself ever.”

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 Sanaa, who has worked in the business since a child, admits that she’s developed a thick skin. We all know that being in the spotlight is both a blessing and a cursing. Society tells us that we have to look a certain way and maintain a certain image in order for people to accept us. I’m glad that Sanaa is not allowing the opinions of others to encourage her to go make drastic changes to her body. We dwell in a world where today everyone is so superficial and it is very common for people to undergo surgeries and as Sanaa mentioned…even starve themselves. Simply just to make those angles and pictures in the magazine look good.

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“Being in this business is such a blessing but you gotta know, it’s no joke. The business is hard because all eyes are on you. Everybody is a critic and as a woman – it’s like on duty off duty – every picture. Now in the age of social media…You have to develop a steel exterior. You have to get to the point where you just laugh about sh*t. It rolls off you.”

 Check out her thoughts in the video below on diversity and Hollywood during the first annual All Def Movie Award Ceremony last year.

“I know for a fact that seeing yourself reflected on screen and the stories of the time creates self-esteem, self-worth and self-image.”