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Finding Your Way Back To Love After A Break-Up

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Finding Your Way Back To Love

Finding Your Way Back To ‘You’ Can Be A Rough Journey.

Finding your way back to love after a terrible break-up can be difficult. No one likes breaking up but it’s part of everyday life. You find yourself growing further apart from the one you once couldn’t see yourself without. It just happens and sometimes it’s the worst feeling ever to get past.

There are times, that a break up, no matter how it ends can leave individuals on a soul seeking journey. They try to figure out what they did wrong in the relationship and how they can make the next relationship better.

During this time of solitude, one must not hesitate to first get back to loving yourself. When you are in a relationship, all of your time and effort goes into making the other person happy. There are times where you are so wrapped up into making sure the other person is happy that you lose out on remembering the things that once made you happy.

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So many have fallen into the error of trying to jump right back into a relationship due to loneliness, instead of allowing themselves to heal and properly prepare mentally for the next relationship. This can be a tragic mishap when they find themselves suddenly fearful and assuming the next person is going to be just like their last relationship. This happens simply  because they failed to allow healing of the mind and soul. When you break up from any long-term relationship, it is best to at least give yourself a year to spend alone. During this alone time, it is okay to date and just observe what you expect from the next relationship. It is a time to grow in areas that you may have grown weak mentally and physically in.

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One thing I see a lot of people do is began to punish themselves by thinking that just because a long term relationship did not work out, that they were at fault. You may have done everything you have known to do in that relationship that was deemed right in your eyes, but they still walked away. Do not let that punish you. Often times we have to look back at how a person grew up. Some people do not know how to love nor how to handle being treated well. It would seem that everyone in life is seeking something good for themselves, yet everyone honestly is not. If the world evolved around people always wanting the better good for themselves, then people would eat healthier and maintain those gym memberships right?

 

Understand that just because the person who left you did not appreciate what you had to offer, does not mean something was wrong with you.

You should continue to be the best person you know how to be and one day someone will appreciate all that you have to offer.

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So while you journey back to discovering true love, continue to work on becoming the best version of you. Be open to new things, and by all means, let go of past hurts and do not hold the new love accountable for the past encounters.

True love is right around the corner for you if you allow yourself to be open to receiving it. This means you began now tearing down that brick wall from the past hurt. Go into your garden, and uproot all the weeds in your life, and clip off those dead leaves.

Now is the time for new beginnings. The past is simply just that, it has no hold on you nor serves as a hindrance for the love you shall receive.

Embrace You & Return To Self!

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5 Questions All Single Men Should Ask When Dating!

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5 Questions Every Single Man Should Ask

Before you get too serious…

Is the new woman in your life a keeper or a player?

 Questions all single men should definitely consider asking any woman prior to making a commitment. Now we have read over a dozen books and articles that are giving the women tips on what to ask a man or what to look for in a man that she assumes will be a potential spouse. However we have not read up on too many novels dedicated to helping the men out.

 Single Men before you get too attached, lets pump those hormonal brakes and find out what she is really all about. You need to ask basic questions so that you can gain some understanding of where her head is, and if she will be a potential partner for the night or for the future.

 

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                           1. What are your short-term or long- term goals?

  This question is very important because you need to know exactly what she has going for herself. How can a Queen help out the King if she has no desires to do anything greater in life. You want a woman who will build with you and bring ideas to the table. You don’t want to marry a woman who has no plans for the future and just follows you around like a shadow while you make all the decisions. 

 

                       2. What are your views on Relationships or Marriage?

 This is a great question to ask because you need to find out if she believes in things that you oppose of in a relationship/marriage. You could be getting yourself involved with a woman who believes the opposite of you, and that can cause division and confusion along the way. There are so many women who are married or in a relationship, that live the lives of single women. Your goal is not to look for a woman who is perfect but for a woman who is a perfect fit for you. So many believe that opposites attract but honestly there must still be a common ground between the two of you to make it work.

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                                        3. What do you think about me?

 This may seem hilarious to ask but trust me, you need to know what a woman is thinking about you just as much as she wants to know what you think about her. When you ask this question, be quiet and observe. Observe for body language and look her in the eyes when she talks. The last thing you want to do is waste your time with a woman who is playing games with you and may only be interested in your finances more than she is into you. 

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                       4. What kind of relationship do you have with God?

 Many avoid asking these questions because they feel that someone’s beliefs should not affect you pursuing a relationship with them. However it is very important to know what type of person you are dealing with. She might seem to be the love of your life but she may be an atheist. She may worship Satan three times a day. So you need to know where her spiritual life resides. You need to be sure that again as stated before that you both share some common ground. 

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5. How well are you with managing money?

                                   Money makes the world go around right?

Then nothing can mess up your relationship than trying to build up your finances with a woman who loves to spend more than she loves to save. You will find yourself in some financial debt sooner or later. You can always take full control over the finances but eventually you will have a battle when she is complaining about wanting to purchase things while you both are trying to save for something greater. So be sure she can at least manage to keep a budget and not blow all of your money.

 These are simply just a few top questions to ask the women that you are pursuing with hopes of later becoming a potential partner for you. Every man needs a woman who will help to bring out the best in him as well as be his backbone. You need more than just a pretty face standing around you collecting dust and nagging about everything she feels you are not doing to make her happy. 

   Take some time to ask questions before you decide to have a future with anyone.