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Finding Your Way Back To Love After A Break-Up

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Finding Your Way Back To Love

Finding Your Way Back To ‘You’ Can Be A Rough Journey.

Finding your way back to love after a terrible break-up can be difficult. No one likes breaking up but it’s part of everyday life. You find yourself growing further apart from the one you once couldn’t see yourself without. It just happens and sometimes it’s the worst feeling ever to get past.

There are times, that a break up, no matter how it ends can leave individuals on a soul seeking journey. They try to figure out what they did wrong in the relationship and how they can make the next relationship better.

During this time of solitude, one must not hesitate to first get back to loving yourself. When you are in a relationship, all of your time and effort goes into making the other person happy. There are times where you are so wrapped up into making sure the other person is happy that you lose out on remembering the things that once made you happy.

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So many have fallen into the error of trying to jump right back into a relationship due to loneliness, instead of allowing themselves to heal and properly prepare mentally for the next relationship. This can be a tragic mishap when they find themselves suddenly fearful and assuming the next person is going to be just like their last relationship. This happens simply  because they failed to allow healing of the mind and soul. When you break up from any long-term relationship, it is best to at least give yourself a year to spend alone. During this alone time, it is okay to date and just observe what you expect from the next relationship. It is a time to grow in areas that you may have grown weak mentally and physically in.

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One thing I see a lot of people do is began to punish themselves by thinking that just because a long term relationship did not work out, that they were at fault. You may have done everything you have known to do in that relationship that was deemed right in your eyes, but they still walked away. Do not let that punish you. Often times we have to look back at how a person grew up. Some people do not know how to love nor how to handle being treated well. It would seem that everyone in life is seeking something good for themselves, yet everyone honestly is not. If the world evolved around people always wanting the better good for themselves, then people would eat healthier and maintain those gym memberships right?

 

Understand that just because the person who left you did not appreciate what you had to offer, does not mean something was wrong with you.

You should continue to be the best person you know how to be and one day someone will appreciate all that you have to offer.

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So while you journey back to discovering true love, continue to work on becoming the best version of you. Be open to new things, and by all means, let go of past hurts and do not hold the new love accountable for the past encounters.

True love is right around the corner for you if you allow yourself to be open to receiving it. This means you began now tearing down that brick wall from the past hurt. Go into your garden, and uproot all the weeds in your life, and clip off those dead leaves.

Now is the time for new beginnings. The past is simply just that, it has no hold on you nor serves as a hindrance for the love you shall receive.

Embrace You & Return To Self!

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5 Questions All Single Men Should Ask When Dating!

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5 Questions Every Single Man Should Ask

Before you get too serious…

Is the new woman in your life a keeper or a player?

 Questions all single men should definitely consider asking any woman prior to making a commitment. Now we have read over a dozen books and articles that are giving the women tips on what to ask a man or what to look for in a man that she assumes will be a potential spouse. However we have not read up on too many novels dedicated to helping the men out.

 Single Men before you get too attached, lets pump those hormonal brakes and find out what she is really all about. You need to ask basic questions so that you can gain some understanding of where her head is, and if she will be a potential partner for the night or for the future.

 

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                           1. What are your short-term or long- term goals?

  This question is very important because you need to know exactly what she has going for herself. How can a Queen help out the King if she has no desires to do anything greater in life. You want a woman who will build with you and bring ideas to the table. You don’t want to marry a woman who has no plans for the future and just follows you around like a shadow while you make all the decisions. 

 

                       2. What are your views on Relationships or Marriage?

 This is a great question to ask because you need to find out if she believes in things that you oppose of in a relationship/marriage. You could be getting yourself involved with a woman who believes the opposite of you, and that can cause division and confusion along the way. There are so many women who are married or in a relationship, that live the lives of single women. Your goal is not to look for a woman who is perfect but for a woman who is a perfect fit for you. So many believe that opposites attract but honestly there must still be a common ground between the two of you to make it work.

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                                        3. What do you think about me?

 This may seem hilarious to ask but trust me, you need to know what a woman is thinking about you just as much as she wants to know what you think about her. When you ask this question, be quiet and observe. Observe for body language and look her in the eyes when she talks. The last thing you want to do is waste your time with a woman who is playing games with you and may only be interested in your finances more than she is into you. 

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                       4. What kind of relationship do you have with God?

 Many avoid asking these questions because they feel that someone’s beliefs should not affect you pursuing a relationship with them. However it is very important to know what type of person you are dealing with. She might seem to be the love of your life but she may be an atheist. She may worship Satan three times a day. So you need to know where her spiritual life resides. You need to be sure that again as stated before that you both share some common ground. 

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5. How well are you with managing money?

                                   Money makes the world go around right?

Then nothing can mess up your relationship than trying to build up your finances with a woman who loves to spend more than she loves to save. You will find yourself in some financial debt sooner or later. You can always take full control over the finances but eventually you will have a battle when she is complaining about wanting to purchase things while you both are trying to save for something greater. So be sure she can at least manage to keep a budget and not blow all of your money.

 These are simply just a few top questions to ask the women that you are pursuing with hopes of later becoming a potential partner for you. Every man needs a woman who will help to bring out the best in him as well as be his backbone. You need more than just a pretty face standing around you collecting dust and nagging about everything she feels you are not doing to make her happy. 

   Take some time to ask questions before you decide to have a future with anyone.

 

How To Keep Your Man Happy!

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How To Keep Your Man Happy

So exactly how do you keep your man happy?

 How to keep a man happy? Well the average woman will probably have a million responses. I can hear some of you now saying there is no exact way to keep a man happy because all men are not the same. I hear you, but ladies what I want you to know is that there are some basic steps that you can follow. If you can manage to follow some of these basic guidelines, then you can keep your man happy!

Men, no matter how different they are, are pretty simple when it comes to just a few things. Women however tend to be a bit more complex when it comes to satisfying our wants. Of course not all women are the same but then again this article isn’t about the ladies right?! So we won’t go in depth on that topic.

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How To Keep Your Man Happy

Let me add that the tips that I am about to break down for you will only be beneficial for the guy who is for you. I’m sure every woman has learned over the years that you can be everything to the wrong man. It doesn’t mean that would you did was wrong. It just means you did it with the wrong guy. There are some men out there that you can hit back bends for and swing from a chandelier and he will still leave you. That’s part of life.

Yet if you have a really good man who loves you and all you do is create an uncomfortable living space for him, then Houston we have a problem!

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How To Keep Your Man Happy

 

The first issue that every woman tends to do at one point or another is NAGG!

Now sure we all end up nagging for some reason or another but men don’t like it! You will find him escaping the roar of the dragon everyday if he has to. He’ll go hang out with his friends more, or just disappear to avoid all of the nagging. To be honest it may even remind him of being a child who is getting fussed at. He’s a grown man, so he will definitely get away from you to keep his man hood alive. There is a way to get your point across to your man without nagging. Men are simple but not dumb. If you tell him what the issue is then give him the space to fix the problem. When you nag daily about it, you might as well push him out the door of your life. Be his peace of mind!

 

The next issue that we as ladies don’t do enough of is SUPPORT HIM!

How often do we carry long conversations to him about all of our problems and the things we want?! We never take the time to see about his needs. We never ask him what is bothering him. Ladies you have to be concerned about your man. Find out how his day was and if he is dealing with anything. Be that pillow that he can lay his head on and vent to. There are times that we can be a bit selfish of his needs. You have to remember that he is still human. If he feels he can’t talk to you and get that support, he’ll find someone else to vent to.

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How To Keep Your Man Happy

Lastly ladies, stop expecting him to be someone he is not. Stop comparing him to your past relations. Stop trying to CHANGE HIM!

Most of you listen to your friend girls and take all of the wrong advice on trying to train a man to be something he is not. Now by all means you should push your man to be the best he can be, but don’t try to do a make-over stunt. You all remember the woman from the movie, “Two Can Play That Game” who fixed Bobby Brown’s teeth right? He started tripping on her. Let that man be all that he inspires to be for you without you trying to follow some rule book. A good man who loves you, will change for you by himself. He has been living with himself all his life so if he knows he has flaws that could affect your relation, he will happily work on them. If he doesn’t change to better the relationship then honey he just isn’t the one for you.

 

These are just a few tips towards keeping your man happy. Of course I could have added so much more but that will be saved for another topic. Now go home today and work on these three things, and see if you can make 2017 better than your past years!

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How To Keep Your Man Happy

Here Comes Harletson!

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Harletson Band

Get Ready To Fall In Love With Harletson!

A series of encounters through the open-mic night scene in Los Angeles, transpired into the formation of a band with each member sharing a mutual passion for ’60s and ’70s music. The chemistry was inevitable, and their musical styles complimented one another. This lead to a permanent collaboration known to the world as, Harletson! Known for their creative covers of songs in various genres, the band delivers a “sweetly soulful brand of pop. This display has been unheard of since the era of the Eagles & Crosby, and Stills & Nash,” which were popular folk rock bands in the late ’60s.

 Rising to stardom at a very fast pace, the trio’s melodic harmonies have graced even bigger stages across the country, performing their debut single “Say Our Goodbyes on the Hollywood Today Live show in the heart of Hollywood. With a unique passion for storytelling through their music, the group was able to merge their personal stories of the journey to L.A. through the single, while yet managing to send a deeper, inspirational message to their audience. “When you really look at it, the song’s an encouragement to keep fighting for whatever you’re passionate about“, band member Jackson Singleton said.

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Harletson Band

  The band’s name, Harletson, derived from each of their last names: Nathan Harrington, Jackson Singleton and Weston Wilson. It won’t be long until the group brings their musical experience to a city near you!

Harletson band, gives major insight to having grasped great inspiration from role models in the likes of, ‘The Beatles’, ‘Eagles’, ‘Crosby Stills Nash’, and ‘Fleetwood Mac’ states band member Weston. “As for current artists we love Ryan Adams, ‘The Lumineers’, & The 1975”, adds band member Nathan Harrington. Despite starting out with solo careers prior to Los Angeles, the band managed to naturally come together with their diverse backgrounds.

 “I think it was a collaborative effort. We all just loved the same music and it happened very naturally!” -Weston

 “We met in LA through a mutual friend who introduced me to Jack & Weston, we started jamming, & got excited about what we were doing together, so we decided to do this thing for real.” We came together & worked as a unit so fast. It felt so natural that we all knew we needed to form this band. “

-Nathan Harrington

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Harletson Band Performing Before Thousands

The coming together of this amazing band was destined for the ability to reach the world through their display of unique instrumental and vocal talents. As with any band, the goal is to inspire people all over the world through music. Harletson compares their inspiration of music to giving off more of an old school vibe instead of the new school. Weston states, “Although we love some new things, old school is the way to go!” Nathan Harrington went on to add, “I would say both. We definitely have old souls, but there does happen to be some great music happening right now.”

 

The band, which is currently on tour, plans to rub off some of that glorious mix of old school for fans abroad. Jackson states, “We want to leave people encouraged, and motivated to create something positive in this world. The kids who come to the shows are just like us in that a lot of them want to see change. We are just three voices in a sea of the coming generation that want to create Art that impacts people.” Upon completion of the tour, Jackson added that the band will definitely be delivering some new music for fans this year! So get ready to fall in love with Harletson!

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Harletson Band

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Remy Boy Monty Takes Pelle Pelle to His Hood!

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Remy Boy Monty: Pelle Pelle

Pelle Pelle has become one with the Urban Community and continues to be a mainstay in Pop Culture!

Pelle Pelle was born from a dream on the streets of Detroit. Its mastermind Marc Buchanan, launched his vision into a global phenomenon that rocked the world hand in hand with the explosion of Hip Hop! The line features cutting edge designs, bold colors, in your face compositions, and top of the line quality; which catapulted Pelle to the forefront of street wear fashion. The recognition can be seen everywhere; Music videos, movies, television shows, and countless other high profile events. Celebrities, athletes, and musicians embrace Pelle as a must-have in their wardrobe. Pelle Pelle has become one with the urban community and continues to be a mainstay in pop culture. Launched in 1978, Pelle Pelle is an urban fashion brand which started off as a leather outerwear company.

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Pelle Pelle Urban Clothing

Pelle Pelle sprouted into various other designs like outerwear, boots, and handbags. The brand was also the first brand to launch the designer baggy pants. It has been sported by celebrities such as Notorious B.I.G., LL Cool J, Cam’ron, Martin Lawrence, and more. Pelle Pelle is based in Auburn Hills, Michigan.

As Pelle Pelle continues to embrace its Hip Hop culture and heritage, they are linking up with various influencers to see what they have in season for the winter months.

Recently they were able to link up with well-known Remy Boy Monty for their latest installment!

 

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Remy Boy Monty took Pelle Pelle to the streets of Paterson, NJ. From the whip to the chicken spot, he showed them his stomping grounds and revealed #WhatsInSeason for him.

 Check Out the Video below as Monty takes them on a tour of where he grew up at!

                                 Twitter: @RemyBoyMonty1738 @PellePelle

Be sure to head over to Pelle Pelle & make an impression this season!