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#ASKStarr: Question of The Day

Dear Starr,

“I’ve been dating this guy for about 3 months and he’s great so far. Respects my decision to not have sex, provides for me without me asking, motivates me to follow my dream, is dating for marriage, no kids, hard worker, perfect gentleman…even stands near the street when we are walking…but the problem is that I’m not over my ex bf. My ex, I feel…never had a chance to make things go the way they should’ve. We were both selfish, sneaky and manipulating to one another…since we have split, he’s expressed himself to me and we share the same feelings for one another…id love to leave this new guy and work things out with my ex…or at least try…I feel like if I don’t, I’ll always wonder what could’ve been…..but…the new guy is in love with me…he’s invested a lot…idk what to do.”

 

Starr Response:

Okay. This is a tough situation. First let me say that I always encourage others to give yourself time to heal before dating or beginning something new. The reason is because you can meet someone amazing like the guy you are dating and risk hurting him because you have not fully healed just yet. What you have to consider is whether your ex is even worth going back to. Because it sounds like the guy you are dating is amazing! I always look at things like if it was meant then it would have worked. At this point I believe the best thing to do is be honest with the guy you are dating, and see if he is willing to be patient with you while you heal. I wouldn’t look back to an ex. Because regardless of how it ended, it ended for a reason and now God has allowed you to meet someone awesome. Go forward but be honest with him and take your time.

(Anonymous stated that she recently broke up with her ex in May and started dating the new guy in August)

Anonymous:

“I have been honest with him. I told him I’m still healing and that I want to take things slow but he still wanted to claim me as his girl…but I’m still wanting to reach out to my ex and see where things could go.”

“I think I just don’t want to let him go, because it was a time that I did, that’s when I prayed and asked God to deliver me from it and he did, but I went back, over and over.”

Starr Response:

It is a plus that he understands what you are going through, which speaks volumes about him.  I know it will be tough, but take your time and embrace the love this new man is offering. If you go back to your ex, things may be another repeat of what caused you to break up before. You have to break the cycle. By going back, you are going to lose the chance to regain the heart of the young man interested now, if you go back and discover things didn’t change. The new guy you are dating, sounds like he is the type of guy who wants to love you, respect you and accept you just as you are despite what you have been through. Do encourage him to be patient with you but don’t keep him on hold forever. Never let anyone rush you into something just because they are ready. Take your time but embrace the love this young man is offering. There is always going to be an attachment to your past, and there will always be that odd urge to think “what if” because you just recently broke up. Time heals all wounds, so keep going forward and eventually those thoughts will go away. Don’t continue to hold on to what has let go of you and proven in the past to not work out repeatedly. He is use to you running back so don’t keep giving him that privilege. It’s time to embrace a new beginning and let the past, remain the past. Let him go and honey enjoy this new love that God has sent your way!

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Little Richard Hints He’s No Longer Gay: Says You’ve got to live the way God wants you to live.

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     Little Richard Hints He’s No Longer Gay

At age 84, Little Richard is opening up about his love for God and how despite people being gay or bi-sexual, the Lord still loves them. In the past, the rock ‘n’ roll legend described himself as ‘gay’, but now says he’s dedicating his final years to living holy “like Jesus”.  He also insisted men should live as men, and women should live as women, the way God intended.

“Give everything you’ve got to Jesus and you’ll feel oh, so much better.”

He continues,

“You know it’s just like everybody is turning one way or the other. This man here, when I first came into show business, they wanted you to look like everybody but yourself. And anybody come in show business, they’re gonna say you’re gay. Are you straight? Are you a homosexual something? They’re gonna say it. But the God, Jesus, made men, men, he made women, women, you know. And you’ve got to live the way God wants you to live. “

Richard, who no longer wears wig and make-up, also said that he believes if a person’s sexual orientation wasn’t in line with God’s design, that God is able to fix it.

“Regardless of whatever you are He loves you. I don’t care what you are. He loves you and He can save you, and He will save you and He can help you. He will help you. All you’ve got to do is say, ‘Lord, take me as I am. I’m a sinner.’ But we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. The only holy, righteous person is Jesus and He wants us to be just like Him because in order to go to Heaven, we’ve got to look like Him,” Richard said. “I don’t want to sing Rock and Roll no more. … I want to be holy like Jesus.”
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Little Richard (real name Richard Wayne Penniman, is an influential figure in popular music and culture for more than six decades. His most celebrated work dates from the mid-1950s, when his dynamic music and charismatic showmanship laid the foundation for rock and roll. His music also played a key role in the formation of other popular music genres, including soul and funk. Little Richard influenced numerous singers and musicians across musical genres from rock to hip hop; his music helped shape rhythm and blues for generations to come, and his performances and headline-making thrust his career right into the mix of American popular music.

Little Richard has been honored by many institutions. He was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame as part of its first group of inductees in 1986. He was also inducted into the Songwriters Hall of Fame. He is the recipient of a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Recording Academy and a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Rhythm and Blues Foundation.

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T.I. Says Las Vegas Massacre Changes Nothing for Me, On Gun Control or Concerts

T.I. is standing his ground on gun laws, saying there’s still a NEED for Americans to own assault weapons. TMZ spoke to Tip  while he was leaving L.A. Wednesday night and asked him if the Las Vegas massacre makes him second guess security at his concerts, or his thoughts on gun control.

Although the massacre was not something that could have been predicted to happen. I truly believe that people need to protect themselves more especially at these massive events.

What are your thoughts on it? Share in the comments below.

Tyrese Investigated by Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services Over Abuse Claims

Tyrese is under investigation by the Los Angeles County Dept. of Children and Family Services over his ex-wife’s claims that he spanked their 10-year-old daughter so hard she couldn’t sit down. Let me just add that honey I think half of black america may have experienced some of those spankings, and no it doesn’t make it right but to continue on.

via TMZ:

Tyrese and Norma Gibson are in a court battle … Norma’s trying to get a permanent restraining order prohibiting him from physically disciplining their kid. She also wants full physical and legal custody. She’s worried Tyrese will take their daughter to Dubai, where he has business ties, and not come back. She also wants Tyrese to take domestic violence courses.

She claims Tyrese “beat” the girl between 12 and 16 times. Tyrese says he only struck her once on her bottom. Tuesday in court, Norma’s attorney said DCFS is now investigating Tyrese.

It’s not uncommon for DCFS to launch an investigation as a precautionary measure.

For his part, Tyrese says Norma is bitter that he married someone else and is trumping up false allegations out of revenge.

Tyrese’s lawyer, Terry Levich Ross, tells TMZ bluntly, “She’s a lying piece of s***. Tyrese is devastated. He’s a good guy and I will prove that.”

Check out Tyrese recent post on Instagram about it all.

Jay-Z Opens Up His 40/40 Club for Puerto Rico Relief Efforts [Photo]

Jay-Z is donating use of his 40/40 Club and D’Usse cognac to help raise funds for Hurricane Maria victims in Puerto Rico.

via TMZ:

We’ve learned Jay’s lending out his 40/40 Club Manhattan location Wednesday for Disaster Relief For Puerto Rico, a fundraiser for Hurricane Maria victims. In addition to the free space, comped bottles of D’Usse for the first hour — Jay’s cognac — will be flowing for anyone who donates items or money to relief efforts. D’Usse is even throwing in free models to serve the stuff.

The invite for the 40/40 event, which is being organized by the Puerto Rican Family Institute and Big & Little Skills Academy, asks people to bring school supplies, flashlights, solar lamps and batteries. A plane will be sending the supplies from the event Thursday. In a separate effort TIDAL also is reportedly planning to fly 200,000 lbs. of supplies to the wrecked island on another plane. 

It’s always a plus to see those who are willing and able to step up and do their part to help others in need.

 

Watch: Barack Obama Surprises Michelle with a Sweet Anniversary Message at the Pennsylvania Conference for Women [Video]

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Barack and Michelle Obama celebrated their 25th anniversary on yesterday. Despite it being their special day, Michelle spent part of it having a talk with Shonda Rhimes at the Pennsylvania Conference for Women in Philadelphia.

That didn’t stop him!

Appearing on a big screen, Barack first apologized for “crashing” the conference before getting into a loving tribute that brought tears to his wife’s eyes.

“I had to crash this party because today we have been married for 25 years,” our President Obama said. “The idea that you would put up with me for a quarter of a century is a remarkable testament to what a saintly, wonderful, patient person you are.”

“It was a lot easier for me to do it,” he continued with a smile, “because the fact of the matter is that not only have you been an extraordinary partner, not only have you been a great friend, somebody who could always make me laugh, somebody who would always make sure that I was following what I thought was right, but you have also been an example to our daughters and to the entire country.”

As he got to the end of his message, Michelle was visibly moved.

Watch Barack’s touching video below.

Keyshia Ka’oir Talks About When She First Fell In Love with Gucci Mane

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Ladies we have a ton of stories to share about what made us first fall in love with a guy. Maybe it was the way he wore his clothes, or the smell of his cologne, or simply something he did for us in a time that we needed him the most. Nothing quite compares to the feeling of falling for someone who you know has your back regardless of his or your situation.

Gucci Mane may have been thought to just be one of the guys who would continue to play the game of life when it came down to the ladies, so to see him on the verge of getting married is the most beautiful love story ever. The world will definitely be watching as he and the lovely Keyshia Ka’oir unite.

Keyshia Ka’oir and Gucci Mane are preparing for their wedding and their upcoming wedding documentary series that will appear on BET later this month, October 17, 2017.

Prior to the show’s premiere later this month, Keyshia opened up to Page Six about first meeting Gucci back in 2010.

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“I went on tour with Gucci in 2010 — that is when it really started to get serious. I fell in love with Gucci when I bathed him .?.?. I put him in a shower and just bathed him. I just did things to him and he looked at me and said, ‘Wow, no one has ever bathed me before.’”

She went on to clarify that her upcoming nuptials have a strict dress code.

“Even my camera crew has to wear white. If you don’t come dressed accordingly, you have to leave .?.?. I am so serious,” she said.

Wow! Amazing how just the simple things in life can lead to you being the wife. Ladies take notes, that it’s the simple things that you can do for a man that will make him fall in love with you on top of loyalty. Sometimes ladies think that buying a guy all the fancy items, being good in bed, or paying off a few overdue tickets can help you win his heart, but no it’s the little things in life that matter the most.

Congrats to these two because real love is a beautiful thing. Once you have it, you should never let it go. Rumors surfaced that the two have already tied the knot but either way we are still looking forward to watching the series premier.

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Chanel West Coast Wastes No Time Finding a “New Bae” in the Release of Her New Video Featuring Safaree

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We’ve been hearing the song all season and the video is finally here! TV personality and rapper Chanel West Coast is serving swagged out sexy in the release of her single, “New Bae,” featuring Safaree.

According to VH1, the listening party may not have gone as smoothly as they would have liked it to on Love & Hip Hop Hollywood but the video for “New Bae” certainly turned out to be pretty dope. The Pat Clark-directed visual starts with Chanel in a chaotic relationship with her old flame. Following an argument and a shove, her past fling throws a vase full of roses on the ground in anger.

Yet in the snap of a finger, she finds herself a new bae at her front door, just waiting to make out. Chanel is not dealing with any man who plays games.  I think all the ladies can relate when it’s time to move on and find you a new bae!

What do you think of the video? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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If They Are Interested…They Will Make An Effort

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You are hoping that they like you just as much as you like them, so therefore you are making every bit of effort to show them just how you feel.

The question is, “Are they returning the same effort?”.  Is there any mutual effort coming forth in this situation that you are in pursuit of?

These are little questions that we have to ask ourselves when we are in the process of dating and getting to know a person. So many times we invest so much of ourselves into a situation that is probably already reflecting signs that it is not going anywhere. So to avoid wasting time, it is good to observe these little red flags that are being tossed at you. No matter how much you like a person, you still need to feel that they like you just as much. A relationship can’t be ran with only one heart involved and only one person interested.

When a person is interested in you, they will make an effort to be involved in your life as well as stay in communication with you. There is no way you can be interested in a person yet you never call, never go out with them or show any signs that you truly like them. A person can tell you all day that they like you but what are they doing to show you that? Actions are so very important. Without actions, a word is simply just a word.

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I have liked a lot of people in my days but the one I was truly interested in could easily tell.  People who are interested in you will set aside time for you, and will not give you a ton of excuses for why they can’t spend time with you. If you notice that they are always going places but never taking the time to invite you to go out with them then honey they are just not interested in you. They may love the idea of you but they are not willing to put in the time to be with you.

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This may hurt but I want you to know that it’s only a lost for them and not you. You don’t need to be with a person who is not fully interested in being with you. That is only going to set you up for failure. This is how people end up in situations where they get their heart broke because they remained in pursuit of someone who was showing them that they were not fully interested in them.

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You deserve someone who can see the value that you bring to their life. If a person can go on days or weeks without thinking about you or trying to contact you then let them go. If a person you are interested in keeps giving you the run around and making excuses for why the two of you can’t spend any time together then you need to let that go. That person may be living a double life, married or hiding something and you should be thankful for the signs leading you to get out or away from that situation.

Believe me nobody is so busy that they don’t have time for someone that they care genuinely about. This is the day and age of social media and people have their phones glued to their hands or some form of device to catch every phone call even while at work. So don’t let someone fool you with the little lines that they are just super busy.

If they are interested, they will make the effort to include you in their life. If the person you are in pursuit of is not trying to include you in anything, and is not setting aside time for you then that is your red flag to keep it moving. There is a high chance that they are too busy giving their time to someone else. So don’t block the door when someone who may truly be interested is waiting to walk through.

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