Is The Right Man Worth Waiting On?
Queens we have been told many times to not put your life on hold for a man. Why? Well some will say that you should not wait for no man because he may never be ready for you, or you could risk the chance of missing out on the man who is right for you.
So here is the twist in that theory. There is a possible chance that the one you are interested in and waiting for, could very well be the right one for you.
Now of course, you want to be sure that he is worth waiting for, and you will know that by his actions towards you.
Before you decide to put your love life on hold for any man, you need to be sure that the feelings are mutual. Does he really care about you the same way that you care about him? Has he stated to you verbally that he wants to be with you, but wants to get himself together first? If so then what’s the rush? You can’t help but respect his honesty.
A man who loves you wants to offer you his best. He doesn’t want to present himself to you as some broke dude with no way of taking care of you or raising a family. Some want to at least move up out of their mom’s house, and let’s add that some men are still living at home with their mom to save up and it’s nothing crappy about that. Let’s admit apartments cost a lot of money these days and the money you spend on them is not returned so I’m not going to knock a man who still is at home saving up to buy a house. Some men still have a lot to work on before stepping into those shoes that mean being a leader and the man of the house. I’m not one to judge a man based on his living conditions.
It sounds so good to want to be with a man when he is at his lowest. There is nothing wrong with that. But I admire a man who tells you upfront that “I’m not ready yet” and “I want to get myself together first.”
That’s a man who is not trying to live paycheck to paycheck and drag you along for the journey. He’s trying to save you a headache and various stages of depression.
Now of course there are videos everywhere protesting against waiting on anyone, but I truly believe that a man who wants to prepare himself to offer the best version of himself to you is a respectful and beautiful thing.
I mean what is wrong with a man wanting to get his life together before dragging you into the picture?
Some men don’t want a woman he truly loves to be with him while he is struggling and barely the man he is supposed to be in order to be her head as God ordained man to be. Yes the support during that low period is beautiful, but some men want to wait so they can offer you the best.
I will admit that I was that person who felt you shouldn’t wait on no man. But there are men who will come in your life and prove themselves to be worth the wait. I don’t mind waiting until the man who has actively shown himself to love me….gets himself together first. We are so in a rush these days for love and love is something that can’t be rushed.
Love takes time. A man who loves you, wants to take his time and get his life together before involving you.
Because you may very well lose interest or trust in him if you get the man that he is right now.
When a person is struggling, they can be very angry, depressed, bitter and so many other things. Those various moods could be reflected on you unintentionally. Do you know how many men get involved with women before they are ready, and mess the relationship up? They get involved to soon because they want to make the woman happy and not risk losing her to another man, despite knowing they are not ready.
There are women out there right now who are mentally scarred because of what happened to them in a rushed relationship. The man simply was not ready or in a place to be what he felt he needed to be for her.
There are so many good men, who get cheated on, and I don’t condone cheating but it happens because maybe his finances were not right, so she got tired of him being broke all the time. Despite the fact that he told her upfront that he was working on getting his finances together but she was persistent towards being with him anyway. She wanted to force him into something he stated he was not ready for.
Ladies this is not a swimming course where you push the man into the pool and expect him to start swimming. Some will drown if they are not ready to swim.
You have to listen to men when they are talking to you and respect their honesty. It can save you a lot of hurt in the long run. Let me add that a man who is stating the facts upfront that he is not ready yet for you, is showing you that he doesn’t want to be that man who hurts you.
I believe the best response would be to accept that, and be willing to wait if he states that he wants you to give him time to improve. If he is genuinely a good man to you and to your heart then he is worth waiting for. Don’t rush him or force him.
Now by all means do not sit up waiting on a man who is not stating he wants to better himself for you or is not even showing any signs of mutual desire for you. Your waiting will be in vain.
Make sure the love is mutual and if so then take your time. He is worth waiting for if the love is mutual and his actions match.
Be sure to get your copy of my new book which is now available on Amazon titled, “You Are Worth The Wait”. Simply search Tanisha D. Davis on Amazon to locate my new book which is especially for those who know that they are worth waiting for!
CLICK HERE! For my new book, “You Are Worth The Wait.”
Share your thoughts in the comments below on the topic.
Do you feel a good man who has stated he wants to better himself first before pursuing a long term relationship or marriage with you is worth the wait?